Where’s Daddy?


This was taken when I was in the 6th grade; my dad left for the final time.


As I am preparing to go to New Mexico this weekend to speak on my personal story which I call, “Daddy, Do You Love Me?”… I got a bit sidetracked.  I began thinking about how blessed and thankful I am.  As I was thinking about all the ways the Lord has taken care of me as I was growing up without a daddy to watch over me, I checked into some statistics of kiddos growing up without a daddy.  After reading over several items on this subject, I was even more thankful.  I was a girl at risk and by God’s amazing grace, I made it through without too many scars.

Here are just a few of the many sad statistics of kids growing up in a fatherless home:

43% of US children live without their father

90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes

71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father

63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes

85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes

71% of high school dropout comes from fatherless homes

75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes

85% of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless home

*About 40% of children in father-absent homes have not seen their father at all during the past  year;

26% of absent fathers live in a different state than their children; and

50% of children living absent their father have never set foot in their father’s home.

(Statistics are from the US Department of Census)

Aren’t those sad statistics?  It makes my heart hurt!

The good news!

“When my father forsakes me, then the Lord will take care of me.” -Pslam 27:10

“He is a father to the fatherless.” – Pslam 68:5

You don’t have to be one of those statistics!  You can make it!  I know you can!

Put your faith and trust in Christ, let Him be your Heavenly Daddy!  Sounds easy, doesn’t it?

The answer is no, it’s not that easy, BUT….it can be done.

If you are struggling in any of these areas, I would love to visit with you.  Use the contact form  or leave a comment and and let’s talk!



Do You Have a Desire To Be Holy?

As a new Christian, a new world opened up to me.  Attending Church and Sunday School became a normal for my family and I.  We were at the church every time the doors were open, as they say.  As I became convicted of various things in my life, my desire to walk as close to my Heavenly Father as possible grew stronger each day.  I was 14 and my life consisted mainly of taking care of my two younger brother’s and keeping up with housework and helping my single mom out any way I could.  I loved church life!  I was very shy, so I listened and watched more than anything.  School was something I had to do, it really wasn’t my favorite place to be, but I managed.  I tried to live my life in a way that I thought was pleasing to the Lord.  I made many mistakes (as I do now) and many times I would have someone say things to me in a negative way about being too holy.  I began to associate the word holy as someone like a “Miss Goody Two Shoes.”  At that time, I wasn’t familiar with this passage in God’s Word:

but, as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy.”I Peter 1:15



I wish I would have had a Bible Study back then like the one my friend, Kathy Howard wrote recently, Embraced by Holiness: The Path to God’s Daily Presence.

If you are looking for an easy to understand Bible Study on the subject of Holiness, this is it!  It is a 6-week study and you can do it on your own like I did, or use in a group setting.

I love Kathy’s practical easy to apply stories and her use of scriptures along with personal thought evaluations throughout the study!



Read more about Kathy Howard here!




Women’s Ministry Memories!

Our church was looking for a new youth pastor and the pastor asked my husband to fill in until they found someone.  I was 21 and hadn’t been married a year yet.  We took a group of teens to a winter camp in Colorado.  I was in a cabin with several girls and one night a young girl about 15 woke me up to talk. She shared with me that she thought she was pregnant.  This was a beautiful young lady who was visiting our church at the time.  I remember mostly just listening to her and in my head I was begging the Lord for the right words to say and the right way to help.  I didn’t have a clue of how to handle a situation like this.  Along with my husband’s guidance, I did my best in being someone that she needed in the area of talking to her parents and guiding her in some steps to take.

Shortly after, our church had a Family Life Seminar with Tim and Beverly LaHaye.  I was honored to help one of our pastor’s with the planning of the seminar.  When the seminar took place, I was awestruck by the ministry of Beverly LaHaye.  She had a passion to see women live their lives in a way that brought honor and glory to the Lord through their marriages, raising children and serving in the church.

When my husband went to seminary, we served in a church where my husband worked full-time as  youth/ associate pastor.  This is where my passion for equipping young girls and women to be all that God desires for them really began.  Here are a couple of pictures I found of the Christian Womanhood Class that we started.  I would love to know where these girls are now!  Notice the monogramed jumpers?  They sang as a group, too!  So cute!  The second picture shows the girls and I during our first event, “Hat’s Off To Mom!”   (early 80′s)


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The following pictures are just a sample of some of the amazing women that I have met over the years while serving in women’s ministry and going to various women’s events .

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There are many more that I didn’t get or have a picture of.  Can you recognize any of them?

I will always remember that first young girl that came to me in the middle of the night with a desperate need of help and I wasn’t at all equipped to help her.  I vowed way back at that first meeting of that little Christian Womanhood Class, to be equipped myself and to teach other’s to live their lives as God designed.

The Declare Conference!

My greatest take away in attending the Declare Conference for Christian Blogging Women:  To be confident in God’s leading in using my voice in the blogging world and any other way He chooses to use me.

Here is a highlight of the weekend at the conference:


The first week of August, I attended a bloggers conference called, Declare! It was held in Dallas at the Mariott Las Colinas.

I had only been to one other blogging conference and that was a couple of years ago, which I learned so much but I was really enticed by Declare because it was geared toward Christian women and, that would be me.

I arrived Thursday just in time for a photography lab that I had signed up for before the conference began. I was in a class with 3 other women, so it was nice to have a lot of one on one with the instructor, Michelle Debenport. I took my Canon Powershot SX30 IS. I know nothing about cameras or photography, but would LOVE to be good at it. The first thing I learned was, that I really didn’t know anything about my camera. Fortunately, Michelle was very patient with me. Here is one of my pictures that I took as practice: (I know, you are saying, “keep working on it, Beverly!)



That evening The Mike Romero Band led us in worship, which was excellent. Keynote speaker, Jessi Connolly had a great message on Wild Inspiration!

During door prize time, they called my name as the winner of the Cracker Barrel Rocking Chair! When they were calling my name, I was thinking “wow, someone here has my same name!” Then I realized, it really was me. Yay!  Thank you, Cracker Barrel and Declare Team!


Breakfast, worship and an amazing message by Francie Winslow!

Then workshops began! This is hard for me, as I want to take every class. I settled on Essential Writing Strategies for Bloggers by Denise Hughes! Loved her and the class!

Lunch and next workshop, Leading with Grace by Jan Greenwood! I was inspired and excited. I bought Jan’s book, Women at War.   Jan, obviously practices what she preaches; as I was searching for a spot for breakfast one morning, Jan came over and asked me to join her for breakfast.  A new friend!

I then went to Shaun Groves class, Public Speaking When You’d Rather Type Than Talk! That class was an easy choice for me. Pretty much summed up my thoughts. Great class on speaking in public.

Dinner and keynote speaker, Lisa-Jo Baker! Once again inspired and I couldn’t wait until the next morning!

Did I mention they had workout time at 6 a.m? Did I mention…I didn’t do that? Maybe next year!

Kat Lee was keynote! Loved her message, Wild Obedience In The Small Things.

First workshop of the day and I chose a great class, Use Less Words To Communicate Big Ideas by Lara Williams! I learned a lot in that class just by knowing that I have too many words in this post.

Next on the agenda was, Blog Appeal and Attracting Publishing Professionals by Jessie Kirkland. This was a jam-packed class that was very interesting. So much great information.

A publishing panel was my next choice for the day.  Many questions were answered in the area of being published.

Dinner with Shaun Groves leading worship and Kristen Welch as our final keynote speaker was the end to a fabulous conference! Can it really be over already?



*Each time we came to our table for meals and keynote speakers, we would have gifts; jewelry, books, magazines, posters….I love prizes!

*During breaks it was fun to browse the Sponsor Booths. Many ministries were represented that touched my heart, such as:

Gospel for Asia, Veil of Tears

End Bible Poverty

Mercy House, Kenya

Plus many more!

I hope that helps a little bit in encouraging you to go next year. If you want to make a difference in our world through blogging, this is the conference to inspire you!

If you do go, I will see you there! Registration has already begun!     https://www.eventbrite.com/e/declare-2015-know-god-make-him-known-beautifuldeep-tickets-12373548617

You just may meet a new inspiring friend, too!


Lea Culp and Cindy Teel were two sweet ladies that I met.  (I didn’t get a a picture of Cindy.)


This I declare about the Lord: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; He is my God, and I trust Him. Psalm 91:2

What Does His Heart, My Desire Mean?







How did you come up with the name, His Heart, My Desire, as the name of your writing ministry?

My Answer:

In 2004, I was at my first writer’s conference and as I met so many new friends, I noticed many had names for their ministry and website, etc. That was one of the many things I had never even thought about in this new world of writing.

In my quiet time that evening, I asked the Lord to show me what He wanted me to do with this desire I had to write. I threw in my other question; “Is there a name or tagline that I should have for my writing ministry?” What I heard next was…..crickets. Then I fell into a peaceful sleep. Does that happen to you, too?

The next day while sitting in a workshop, the words, His Heart, My Desire, popped in my head. I wrote it down and read it over and over the next couple of days. I knew that was my theme for my writing. Since that day, I claimed, His Heart, My Desire as my theme and have never thought another thing about it because I knew it was from the Lord.

My purpose in writing is to encourage women to strive to have a heart like His in our everyday living.


That’s great, Beverly, but what exactly does His Heart, My Desire mean?

Since the day that I became a Christian at the age of 14, I have strived (notice I didn’t say successfully) to live my life according to the Bible, which is God’s letter to you and I. It is filled with examples of how to live a life that honors and glorifies Him. Because of our sin nature, we will never have a heart as pure as His, but we can strive and do our best.

“Therefore, be imitators of God as dear children.” -Ephesians 5:1 (NKJV)

I like how the Phillips translation has this verse:

“As children copy their fathers, you, as God’s children, are to copy him.” Ephesians 5:1

Some of the attributes of God’s Heart that we can strive to imitate are:

A Loving Heart

A Kind Heart

A Peaceful Heart

A Righteous Heart

A Compassionate Heart

A Wise Heart

A Truthful Heart

A Heart of Humility

Is there a certain attribute of God’s heart that you are struggling with or that you have improved on? If you don’t want to post it in the comment section, please feel free to email me. (click on the sparkly gold button in the right-hand sidebar at the top.)

Thank you for taking the time to read my post today and I will let you know when my e-book is ready on this very subject, His Heart, My Desire! I’m so excited to share more with you and in more detail!


New Site Completed!


Yay!  I’m so excited that my new site is completed and ready to go.  Susan, at Pretty Darn Cute Designs, was a huge blessing to work with.  Most of all, her patience with me was amazing!  I had met Lindsey, the creator of Pretty Darn Cute Designs, at a Blissdom Bloggers Conference a couple of years ago and she was so sweet and I loved all of her designs.  I kept her info on file knowing that I would eventually be switching my website and blog over to WordPress.

So, take a look around and see what you think. I look forward to sharing with you all the latest that the Lord is showing and teaching me. My goal is to encourage you and hopefully inspire you through all my blunders and my many lessons.  I, for sure don’t have this life figured out, but I have enjoyed my journey that God has set before me.  Together we can be assured of God’s love and gain some tools to become the Woman of God, that He designed us to be.

I love comments, so don’t ever hesitate to leave me a note in the comment box or email me.  


Beverly, why did you name your blog, His Heart, My Desire and what does that mean exactly?

My answer is………coming up in the next post!  Stay tuned!





Declare Conference!

I’m excited about attending the Declare Bloggers Conference that is soon coming up! I’m looking forward to being inspired and motivated by the teachings during the weekend.




We were asked to post 4x4of 4 Things, so here it goes:

4×4 of 4 Things…..

4 Things About Me:

*I’ve been married to my Jim for 34 years
*We have two amazing kids and a handsome son-in-law.
*We have 4 of the cutest grand babies ever and one on the way.
*I became a Christian when I was 14 and it has been an amazing journey.

4 Of My Endearing Quirks:

*I’m extremely shy and work on it constantly.
*I’m a germaphobe and I try not to be.
*I’m a night owl that forces herself to go to bed early.
*I spend way too much time dreaming and not doing.

4 Things About My Blog/Writing:

*I love writing on topics that will encourage women to live their lives for Christ.
*I write about things that I wish I would have known about as a young mom.
*I write about the things that the Lord is teaching me daily.
*I also write about the fun things in life such as family, decorating, cooking and shopping.

4 Of My Favorite Things:

*My Relationship with Christ
*My Family
*My Health
*My Freedom




Where’s Beverly?

I’ve been redecorating my blog and combining my website with the blog……..new fun posts coming soon!!!!

My New Love

I’ve discovered a line of bags and jewelry at my favorite Brighton store.  It is called, My Flat In London.  I bought these two beauties in a Brighton store in Branson.  The good news is, they were both on sale!

My wish list just got longer after discovering my love for everything they have.  A girl can dream, can’t she?  I’ll take one of each!  Click here to see what else they have!  You will love it!
Tiffany Blue My Flat In London bag with coin purse.

My Flat In London

I’m No Angel

From Victoria Secret Model to Role Model
by Kylie Bisutti

I saw Kylie Bisutti on a program not too long ago. Since hearing her, I looked forward to reading her book.  Kylie talked about her modeling career and as her love for Christ grew stronger and stronger, she was convicted of the things that go on in the modeling world and she stepped away from something that had been a dream since a young girl.

Kylie is very transparent about her life as a young teen craving the attention and love from her dad. She found the attention in a way that too many girls end up regretting.

The modeling world always looks so appealing and exciting not only for young girls but even for women like me who are in their 50′s.  It seems we are all attracted to fashion and a more glamorous life.  When you read, I’m No Angel, you will see the other side of the fashion world that we are protected from.

Kylie didn’t become a Christ follower until she was already beginning her dream of modeling, so she was pretty much caught up in making excuses for the lack of discretion in dress and situations that we hope our daughters would never find themselves in.  We all know what Victoria Secret stands for and you will know for sure what their goal is once you read this book.

I encourage moms to read this book and then share with daughters and make it very clear what really goes on in this world.  We need to be honest with our sons and daughters of what is out there waiting for them.

If you work with teen girls, you might consider having Kylie come speak to the girls in your group along with their moms.

How important it is for dads to be involved in every area of a girls life.  Dads are to be the protector of their daughters.  When the dad isn’t around, a girls risk of being exploited and hurt are greater.

I was impressed with her husband and the way he prayed for her to allow the Holy Spirit to work on her heart about the world she was in.  You will appreciate that part of the story.

I love what she wrote toward the end of her book, “I quit being a VS model to become a Proverbs 31 wife.”

In a day and time where modesty, purity and common sense are quickly fading, we need to hear from those that know first hand what is in the trenches.  God has something so much more exciting than what the enemy has in store.  Be wise and discerning.  Mom and Dad, please don’t leave it up to your children to figure it out all alone.  The results might not be what you expect. -Beverly Dillow